There are ten ways to shorten your stay in the problem.
The first one is that you need to take responsibility for your actions. Winston Churchill said “the price of greatness is responsibility.” I know that is a radical idea in today’s society, but just give it a try.
Secondly, be willing to work for what you want. God gave
Third, don’t waste time fighting what you cannot change.
Fourth, when you are wrong, admit it and take the consequences. Stop playing the blame game and being the eternal victim.
Fifth, you will extend your time in the problem by nursing a grudge and refusing forgiveness.
Sixth, be generous to those who need your help. The Bible says “Give and it will be given unto you.” Giving is the only proof you have that the cancer of greed does not control you.
Seventh, let your mouth be ruled by the law of kindness. Simply, love others around you.
Eighth, refuse to indulge in self-pity when life hands you a raw deal. Accept the fact that no one gets through life without some sorrow or misfortune.
The ninth way to shorten your time in the problem is to listen to others! This means giving people your individual attention and putting aside your feelings and trying to understand their point of view.
Finally the tenth, be a peace maker. Are you in a dispute with someone? It is your responsibility to go to them and reconcile. Do you want to be right or be reconciled?
God sends the problem to produce brokenness in your spirit because God can only use broken things.